Emerging from divorce with your soul & sanity intact
Would you tell someone with poor mental health, and suic*dal ideation, who had not slept or eaten properly in 3 weeks, that it was time to suck it up, get divorced and leave behind their only beloved child with no immediate prospect of seeing them again?
A long-term friend of my client had given them that advice and had signed off with, “It is time for you to toughen-up, and don’t contact me again.”
Now the advice may very well have been correct but the manner in which it was delivered was brutally revealing.
My client’s friend was unable to hold the space for the extreme level of emotional pain that my client was experiencing, because they themselves were also trapped deep in their own darkness of deep emotional pain, and my client had triggered them.
Asking the wrong person for advice is what we often do when we face into divorce. My book shows you how to navigate the storm of divorce, to find your way home and thrive
The point when you first realise “I’m done with this” is overwhelming. I’ve been divorced twice now. I’m a divorce serial offender. And, I’ve made every mistake there is to make in the process. It might not feel like it right now, but it absolutely is possible to emerge from a divorce with your soul and sanity intact.
It would be easy to judge & criticise this friend that gave the shitty advice, but the simple fact is that whoever they were, they weren’t the best person to be listening to.
But that’s the thing - when we’re stuck in the darkness - we ask all the wrong people for advice because we’re desperate. We have no idea of what our distress might trigger off in others.
A standout example of this was the Johnny Depp/ Amber Heard trial in Hollywood. It was a very public race to the bottom to determine who was the biggest victim.
Both of them rich and privileged Hollywood stars, acting like this was a life and death struggle for survival, when it was really an illustration of a being trapped in a victim mindset.
It was a ‘Peter Pan’ and ‘Tinkerbell’ romance that went horribly wrong and both of them triggered each other into more extreme behaviours.
When we're stuck in the victim mindset we find out very quickly who else is also trapped in that darkness too.
I spent time listening to my client and allowing him to express his grief and distress at the situation he found himself in, trapped by his victim mindset and facing into divorce.
I gave my client a copy of this book.
My client started to read my book, and he told me it gave him the inspiration to understand why he felt trapped by his victim mindset, and what practical steps he could take to begin to climb out of the emotional pit he had fallen into.
This book has a specific action plan of what to do,
and what not to do, when preparing for divorce.
BUT, more importantly this book will teach you how to
find your way home and thrive.
in this book, you will learn...
How I got a new perspective on my emotions & fears, and found the gold in them
How I came to understanding that my victim mindset was inherited from my childhood
How accessing my unconscious was the key to my transformation
What actions I took to get the right kind of help that set me up to build a new thriving life
This book is a call to action
To harness the creative power of the victim mindset and find your inner peace.